When Shame Runs the Show
Emma Lyons Why people-pleasing and self-abandonment aren’t your fault, and how to take back your power.
We’ve all done it: bending ourselves and basically becoming someone else to get approval, masking our true needs, and overgiving to prove we’re “enough.”
That’s shame at the wheel. It whispers that you’re defective, unworthy, or undeserving, and it drives your choices, your energy, and even your self-care.
When shame runs the show, self-abandonment and people-pleasing isn’t laziness – it’s a survival strategy your nervous system learned growing up in a dysfunctional world. The first step to reclaiming your life is noticing it.
In this clip, I unpack how shame hijacks your inner authority and sabotages your self-care. Awareness is the first move toward dismantling it, so you can finally make choices from your own power, not from fear of not being enough.
If this resonates, comment below or reach out in my DMs. I offer one-to-one sessions to help people (particularly women) disentangle shame and reclaim their sovereignty.
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